Male and Female Energy

Lately I've been feeling a little "out of sorts". Something has been going on for me and I couldn't quite put my finger on it. I started by trying to "fix" it, to analyse it, work it out and make the changes needed to get through it and end it. Then I remembered that all is as it should be. Every experience we have, every emotion we feel, is for a reason and is happening in perfect timing. All is perfect. I chose to just go with it, not against it. To be aware and experience it, not controlling and against it. I knew that by doing so, the lessons and answers would come to me.....and they did.

Today a beautiful friend of mine called me (you know who you are and I love you), excited to share with me some knowledge that I needed to hear at that precise time. We spoke about the male and female energies within us and how these can get out of balance, if too much leading to a place of total disconnection from anything and everything. Exactly how I was feeling.

As a single mum, and I'm sure many other single mums can relate to this, we can be inclined to let the male energy take over. This energy is what is needed to create, plan, be highly focused, all the things we are required to have and do as the only parent in the household. We are the mum and the dad and the expectations we hold of this combined role often lead us to over compensate the male energy and give it dominance. We forget about, become disconnected from, the female energy of our selves. The energy that is light, compassionate to self and directly connected to our soul.

So I was now aware of this and could totally feel and resonate with what was happening for me at that moment. I needed to bring the balance of energy back in to my life. With this awareness and intention, I asked the questions needed to find a way to do that and come across this article. A channeling of Jeshua by Pamela Kribbe titled "Connecting to Your Inner Boy and Girl". Within it is a process you can carry out, a meditation of sorts, that enables you to make that connection. For me it has been it has been beautiful to carry out and effective as well, hence my reason for sharing it with you. I hope that you find value from it as well.

Calling All Single Mothers on the Sunshine Coast!

It's been a long time coming but the Universe has finally opened up the space for me to put together a Single Mums Group. This group is not about moaning and groaning about the challenges and frustrations of being a single mum. It's about gracefully and graciously accepting our role in life, learning about ourselves from it, and using it to create a life of satisfaction for both ourselves and our families.

Find out more about it and share it with your friends.

Problems Saying No?

Do you ever find yourself saying “Yes” to something when what you really want to say is “No”?

Many of us do and for varied reasons.

It may mean to us that we are actually standing up for ourselves and that in itself may be a scary thought if we do not hold enough value and respect for who we are and are not used to voicing our own opinion.

Saying no may mean that we have to let go of something. Often this is something that we may have relied on in the past but that is no longer serving us. A bit like a child giving up their security blanket.

By saying no we may feel that we are disappointing someone and if we have within ourselves a need to be wanted, accepted, etc, this will cause the uncomfortable feeling resulting in a “Yes”, when really we want to say “No”.

Whatever the reason behind not being able to say “No”, you can be assured that it is always fear based.

Our ability, or inability, to say “No”, has a direct connection to how we operate in the world and how others treat us. By having a strong ability to say “No” we protect ourselves and project to others around us clear boundaries of what is and isn’t acceptable. An inability to say “No” leaves us open to hurt and abuse and sends out confused messages to those we are connected to.

So how do we make saying “No” easier?

Often, we shy away from saying “No” because of the emotional charge connected to the result we might receive by doing so. Think about what you would “really” like to say. This will probably be packed with emotion, possibly even anger. Often, the emotions brought up will relate to something from your past. Deconstruct this message and you will find that the emotions behind it will soften and you will be able to get to the core of the issue, process the emotions fuelling the thoughts and identify the boundary or boundaries you need to put in place. Using this process will enable you to communicate your message more clearly and in a manner that is not emotionally charged.

The ability to say “No” can be quite freeing. When you learn to say no effectively you gain the ability to detach from the emotional charges and stand in your own power to make decisions that are right for you from a place of calm.

Being able to say no can also be empowering to the person you are communicating with. Maybe they don’t really need your help, or are in a situation that they are avoiding facing, and by saying “No” to them they are forced to do it alone and will feel good about themselves for doing so.

Like any old habit, it takes time and practice to change. The first step is awareness of what lies behind your inability to say “No”. Once you have that, it’s just practice. Start with the little things. As you get more confident (and this will happen quickly), move up to the bigger issues. Pretty soon you will find that you will be answering an honest “Yes” or “No” to requests made of you and a whole new world of opportunities will be placed in front of you along with a deeper respect shown towards you from both yourself and those around you.

The University of the Soul

Don’t you just love how life is all about learning! You just “get” one thing and another question is posed. Yes, we’re all Uni students attending the Universe-ity of The Soul.

This idea came to me one day when I was contemplating, once again…….

What happened?

We are all “one”.

We are all here on this earth created by the same source.

Therefore we are a part of this source, an extension of this source.

OK – I get that.

So, what happened?

If we all originated from this source, which is pure love, how did we become “tainted”?

What happened that we now experience the emotions of hate, anger, jealousy etc?

If all that existed was pure love, how were these experiences birthed?

So, there’s the theory of Adam and Eve, who were given freewill to make their own choices and ultimately chose against the grain of pure love.

My question is – If they were created from pure love, therefore were pure love, and were only ever surrounded by pure love, then the idea wouldn’t have even entered their head to choose anything other than that which related to pure love. There wouldn’t even have been the option to choose anything other than pure love?

Would there not?

But then, Adam and Eve were human. Created from Spirit, but human all the same. A combination of ego and spirit, conscious, subconscious and superconscious. In order for humans to know that we are experiencing pure love, or anything other state derived from it, we need to have something to gauge it against. How can we know love when we have never experienced it’s opposite, hate?

And then I looked at the word “Universe”, that which we are all a part of, and made the connection to University.

It was all starting to make sense to me now.

The University is The Universe – The place where we are to study, learn and achieve. Where we learn from our teachers, with and from those around us. Where we form relationships and grow.

The Students of this University are Spiritual Beings having a Human Experience. The Human Experience being what they are at University to learn.

There are many different Courses on offer in this University, presented to us in the form of challenges and experiences. Some we will breeze through and others we may possibly fail at first but with support and encouragement from our teachers and an openness to learn, we can keep retaking these courses until we pass and then move on to the next course.

On completion and passing of all courses offered at the “University of the Soul” you will have reached graduation. In other words enlightenment!

So there you go! Looking at life this way certainly makes me feel more comfortable in accepting the challenges I face in life. In fact it adds a kind of excitement in anticipation of what may be in store for me and I can look upon these experiences with gratitude instead of dread. The level of happiness you experience is based around the way you look at things and we all have the power and ability to change the way we look at things, so why not change to our advantage.

I have no doubt that the analogy I have expressed here will open up much for discussion and debate. I welcome it! I encourage you to post your own comments and opinions. After all, we’re all here to share, learn and grow.

Dealing With Frustration and Impatience

Ever Feel Frustrated? Impatient?

My Purpose and Fulfillment coach, Johanna Ashley, suggested to me this affirmation to assist me in moving through a particular period in which I felt frustrated that I wasn't exactly where I wanted to be, at the time I wanted it to happen, a feeling that we all experience at some time or other.

"I am exactly where I am supposed to be right now and by finding the enjoyment in each little moment, I have faith that everything will work out to my benefit and that the universe will naturally provide for me all that I could ever wish for."

This affirmation has been one of the more powerful tools I have used in my own spiritual development. It assisted in easing the situation I was in and gave me a release from the impatience and frustration I was experiencing, so I decided to break it down and see what it was really all about. Read on in Part 2.


Exactly where I am supposed to be right now.......

We are all here on earth with a soul purpose and in order to achieve and realize that purpose we all have our own lessons to learn along the way.

We are following a journey on a map that has many different routes and with our own free will we are able to choose which route we take. Along each route we will be faced with the lessons we need to learn in order to unlock the key to the next part of the path. We can change path whenever we wish however if we don't learn the lesson required we continue to encounter it again and again on any path we take. So it doesn't matter where you are right now. Sit back and ask yourself, "What is the lesson I need to learn from this experience?", take on that learning and you will naturally progress forward to the next phase, ready to take on your next lesson, all in the direction of achieving your soul purpose.

Find the enjoyment in each little moment.......

Do you ever find yourself saying things like - I'll be happy when I get out of this financial mess, I'll be happy when I get that perfect job, I'll be happy when I have the time to do what I want to do.

How can we possibly expect to be happy when we make the deal with ourselves that we will only be happy "when" something happens when, in order for those things to happen we have to be happy? Bit of a vicious circle hey?

Knowing and accepting that we are on a path towards experiencing the ultimate in happiness and satisfaction, and that along the way we will face challenges and hurdles that are all for our own benefit, then it makes perfect sense to enjoy each and every moment of the journey. 

We need to learn to embrace and appreciate every little experience that is presented to us. In practicing this myself I found that not only was life less stressful, it also became more exciting.  The lighter I became about life, the more grateful for each experience I became, the more aware I became of what was on offer for me and the more that was offered to me.

Faith that everything will work out to my benefit.......

One of the biggest hurdles we have to overcome in discovering and living our spiritual paths is having the FAITH that all will be OK and that there is a force much larger than the physical that we can see, supporting us and guiding us through life.

This has been proven to us time and time again. Think back to a time when you were in a challenging situation. One where you thought that you may never come out the other side, where you felt as if you were stuck forever. And then something changed, and you moved on, in to a situation where doors were opened and you had grown to a level that was better than where you had come from before.

We can all think of some situation like this. It's not that we are ignorant to this fact or even unaware that this is the case however our past conditioning is so ingrained that at times, our faith weakens and we question and doubt this powerful force in our lives. During these challenging times we need to draw on these past experiences and use them to strengthen our faith in the fact that everything is exactly how it should be and

The Universe will naturally provide for me all that I could ever wish for.......

The Universe has an abundance of offerings and gifts on hand for our use, everything we could ever wish for is at our fingertips. It is only when we let our Ego, our past experiences and conditioning get in the way that we are blinded to this fact and detach ourselves so much that we can't see it to receive it. When we can tame our Ego and release our past experiences and conditioning we allow the space to open up to all that is on offer to us.

So when you find yourself in a situation where frustration and impatience are the domineering feelings in the experience, try practicing this affirmation to assist you in releasing the tension and enabling you to move forward quicker.

"I am exactly where I am supposed to be right now and by finding the enjoyment in each little moment, I have faith that everything will work out to my benefit and that the universe will naturally provide for me all that I could ever wish for."

The Power of Surrender

An Important Message for Strong, Independent Women

Society often looks upon women who are strong and independent with respect and admiration and often these types of women have also achieved huge successes in their life, have done well in the careers and, if they have a family, appear to be able to manage their family and career quite well. Does this sound like you, or someone you know?

More often than not, unbeknown to the outside looking in, the strong and independent woman is operating like a robot, fuelled by the expectations of her peers and society, and most likely the unreasonably high expectations she holds of herself. In order to uphold her appearance of being strong and independent and portray her ability to stand on her own two feet and not have to rely on anyone else, she creates a wall of sorts, a boundary around herself protecting her emotions from any outside influences that could inadvertently see through and send tumbling down this façade she has created, this coping mechanism to live in the world as she believes she should.

I was this woman, and I believe that there are many women in the world today who live their lives behind this facade. It wasn't until I experienced a life changing event in my life, one where I had absolutely no control and had to stand back and witness my "wall" falling down around me, that I came to understand that, like anything in life, these characteristics of being strong and independent are definitely positive yet if not applied in our lives in a balanced way can have a detrimental effect and prevent us from access to the abundance of life and love that is freely available to us.

It was a month to the day before I was to be wed to the love of my life, Tony. We had been together for five years and at the age of 24 this was a lifetime. My life was his, his was mine, we had our future mapped out together. We'd built a house together, and had many hopes, dreams and plans that we were excited to be sharing together. Tragically, on this day, he was taken from this life in a freak car accident. In that moment my life as I had envisaged it not longer existed, I had nothing left of myself, and I had no control over the situation. Having lost all control my immediate reaction to ensure survival was to switch on the strong and independent side of me to maximum control. During this period of immense grief and loss I was unable to uphold this control and naturally fell in to a state of ultimate surrender, unable of anything more. It was at this point, that the universe showed to me the love and abundance that is on hand once we let go of the need to control and surrender to "what will be".

Amazingly, the community in which I lived, my family, friends, people I didn't even know, and people I didn't even like at the time, came to my support. I was embraced with a communal love that I never knew existed and was supported in ways I never would have expected. I took a short trip away to try and escape the grief I felt was suffocating me. During this time, my community banded together and completed the house that Tony and I had been building together. Not long after I was presented with a car that the community had also organised to buy for me. I cannot explain the gratitude I feel towards my community but today I can understand that this is just how the world is at heart. This is the essence of society and who we are, how, if we were all to let go of control, anger and hate, we could all be living every moment of our lives.

There are many lessons that have been learned from this experience in my life however the most poignant for me was the one of the power of surrender. This lesson re-iterating that we are all ONE and cannot possibly operate at our highest potential strictly independently.

You may feel like it is a positive characteristic to be independent and not have to rely on anyone else but there is a difference between relying on outside influences to make you happy and allowing yourself to access those outside influences. Asking for help is not admitting defeat but is a tool you can use to allow yourself the opportunity to tap in to the resources that are rightfully yours, ours, provided by the universe for everyone to share. These resources are in endless abundance and are all within our reach when we allow ourselves to be open to them.

Experience Emotional Freedom Through Detachment

Do you ever find that you feel caught up in the challenges of life? That it becomes all too consuming and all you ever think about, all you ever focus on are the disruptions, torment and grief surrounding the situation at hand?
 
You feel this way because you are emotionally attached to actions and outcomes that are expected and therefore experienced. You have created a channel of energy that is feeding in to this emotion and as the emotions are generally highly charged it is more than likely that you are giving more energy to the situation than you are receiving resulting in an energetically unhealthy situation.
 
When you are attached to a situation or outcome you are likely to experience confusion, frustration, a feeling of being confined or stuck in a rut. You may be looking for a way out of a situation but are unable to find or receive the help you are looking for.
 
We are only able operate at our highest potential when we are energetically healthy. Energy flowing freely through us allowing our intuition to be unhindered, therefore allowing the answers we require to be delivered to us naturally, free of the influence of ego and our surroundings. So how can we possibly get out of these uncomfortable, sometimes soul destroying situations if we are being drained of our energy, feeling unable to regain our own inner strength?
 
Detach from the situation and you will find yourself emotionally free. You will open up a space within you that allows clarity and guidance to be delivered. Things will come easier to you.
 
When I first heard of the concept of detachment, or letting go, I was concerned that it was being suggested that I become cold, hard, uncaring and admit defeat. In order to practice detachment I had to reframe these limiting opinions.
 
To be detached is the realization that you can't control people and circumstances outside of yourself, that the outcome of situations in which others are involved is not in your hands.
 
To be detached doesn't mean that you stop caring, it means that you let go of the emotional responsibility to fix the situation. That you come from a space of "caring about" rather than "caring for", that you are "supportive" rather than "support".
 
Detachment is letting go of judgment, allowing others to be themselves, accepting that each and every one of us is exactly where we should be at exactly the right moment, acknowledging that we are all on a different journey, and not at the same place at the same time.

Easier said than done I hear you say. Here are some steps to developing detachment in your life.
 
1.     Set emotional boundaries between yourself and the person or situation that you are detaching from.
 
2.     Take back the power to create your own feelings. Do not allow the influence of other people or situations to control your own emotions.
 
3.     Trust in your higher self and the universe that the people or situations in which you would like to see change will do so if and when it is right for them. Accept that it is not your responsibility to create this change.
 
4.     Commit to focusing on strengthening and improving yourself only. Acknowledge that you are the only person who you have the power to change and that, for this reason, it is pointless in expending your own energy in order to change another person or situation.
 
5.     Recognise that you have to be healthy within yourself and be a role model to others around you in order to have any chance of even influencing another person or situation.
 
6.     Accept responsibility for your situation and own your own feelings. Let go of any blame of others for the way you are feeling and the situation you are in.
 
Practicing detachment is freeing and liberating and allows clarity, peace and abundance to enter your life.
 
So what are you going to detach yourself from? Where could you benefit from emotional freedom in your life?

How to Get the Most From a Psychic Reading

Looking for direction or confirmation of where you are going in life?
 
A psychic reading is a great way to gain an insight in to how you arrived where you are now and where you could possibly end up in the future. A psychic reading can also provide you with an awareness of patterns you may be subconsciously using, empowering you to use your own free will to create your future.
 
If you are seeking a psychic reading here are some points to keep in mind in order to gain the most benefit from your experience.
 
§  Remember that first and foremost, your reader is a guide for you only, and that using your own free will you are able to create your own future.
 
§  A psychic reading can only present information to you that is valid at that specific point in time. Any actions/decisions made following that reading can ultimately change the outcome. No reading can be guaranteed.
 
§  Approach the reading with an open mind. Take from it what you feel is most important.
 
§  Don't enter the reading trying to "test" your Psychic reader. This will only create a resistance that will close you off to receiving guided information.
 
§  You may feel that information received could apply to a lot of people, appearing a little "generic". Well, yes, this may be the case. Many people in the world are going through the same kind of things, but remember that the reading is bringing to the forefront what is going on for you at that moment and it is up to you to take that information and do with it what you please.
 
§  Work with your Psychic reader. Offer confirmation, if applicable, when information is presented to you and ask for further information where you feel unsure of relevance, or where more clarity is required. This doesn't mean tell your reader your whole life story but offering a little information on points that have been raised can often open up further messages to be delivered to you.
 
§  Be aware that you will not always hear what you want to hear. The information presented to you will be what you need to hear, at the time you need to hear it.
 
§  Don't make seeing a Psychic a regular event. This will only create a dependence upon the Psychic to tell you what to do and will stop you from using and being reliant on your own intuition.
 
§  The information you receive in a Psychic reading will often, more importantly, provide you with guidance relating to your own personal and/or spiritual growth.
 
§  Do not substitute Psychic readings for professional advice.  A Psychic is not a doctor, lawyer or psychologist. Information gathered via psychic abilities is often very helpful but should always be confirmed with advice from a specialist in the area concerned.
 
§  Before the reading prepare a list of questions that you would like to explore. Keep in mind, that only information that is beneficial for you to hear at that particular time will be addressed.
 
§  Only ask questions that you are prepared to hear honest answers on. Sometimes, the answer you receive may not be the answer you want to hear. Sometimes the truth hurts.
 
§  If the reading isn't recorded, take notes. Often, information presented to you may not make sense at the time but will be validated days, months or even years down the track. This is particularly helpful when predictions in time frames are being made.

How Do Tarot Cards Work

Everything that exists in the universe is made up of energy.  Everything is therefore connected via this universal energy. 

Tarot cards possess their own energy and connect directly (through the actions of shuffling and splitting the deck) to the subconscious of the person seeking information via that persons own personal energy. In doing this they are a powerful tool that can be used to provide guidance, direction and self realization. 

They work on the basis of the Universal Law of cause and effect, the law that states there are no coincidences.  Therefore, with this connection of energy between the cards and the seeker, the cards will go where they need to go when shuffled and fall where they need to fall when dealt.


You should never rely on a Tarot Reading to "tell your future" with certainty. Use them as a tool to empower you to make your own decisions.

Welcome!

Welcome and thank you for visiting the my blog. Here I will share with you lessons I have learned along my own spiritual journey that have assisted me in living a fulfilled life as a single mother. My wish is that, whether something resonates with you or not, my sharing creates food for thought, knowledge, questions and answers that will assist you in commencing or continuing along your own spiritual journey and becoming the happiest single mum you can be.

There are no two spiritual paths in this world that are same. This is where the beauty and excitement lies in discovering who we are and what we are doing here. Being that we are all uniquely individual, we will always be confronted with opinions and beliefs that may not necessarily ring true for us. I encourage you to keep an open mind, take on what feels right for you and leave the rest. I also encourage you to post any comments you may have. There is so much to be learned and it is via sharing that we all learn.

"Believe nothing merely because you have been told it. Do not believe what your teacher tells you merely out of respect for the teacher. But whatsoever, after due examination and analysis, you find to be kind, conducive to the good, the benefit, the welfare of all beings - that doctrine believe and cling to, and take it as your guide." - Buddha


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